Virgo
1. My childhood was…
a. My family was very protective – like being in a compound.
b. …full of every advantage.
c. …very supportive.
d. …very supportive but I was lonely and lacked peers.
e. …a time when I felt like an alien – people were jealous of me and even though I was often above everybody else I didn’t fit in.
f. …a time when I felt like an alien – inferior to others and abandoned by my real parents on some strange planet.
g. …a nightmare.
h. …a time I would rather not remember.
i. …good at first but then awful. I don’t know if I’ll ever recover from the shock I experienced.
j. …difficult in the beginning but then it got better.
k. …really wonderful.
l. …difficult, but I have grown a lot from dealing with the experience. It has made me what I am today and I am grateful for the whole process – even the hard parts.
2. Sex…
a. …thrives on trust. Mature openness leads to intimacy.
b. …is a guilty pleasure and secretly I like it that way.
c. …is complicated.
d. …is kind of disgusting sometimes.
e. …is a traumatic issue for me.
f. …doesn’t interest me very much.
g. …is an addiction.
h. I choose to have sex with people whom I know I’ll be emotionally safe with.
i. I’m probably pretty innocent and naïve when it comes to this area of life. It scares me.
j. I’m probably pretty innocent and naïve when it comes to this area of life but open and willing to learn.
k. I’m definitely no innocent.
l. I have regained my innocence in this area.
3. My career…
a. …is something I do to attain self-sufficiency and independence.
b. …although I doubt I’d want to admit this to anyone, is something that I do while I’m waiting for someone to come along and take care of me.
c. …is an area of my life where I have been blessed with many natural opportunities – a lot of support, doors opening as if by magic, etc.
d. …is a big burden that forces me to constantly compromise myself.
e. …is my joyful path of service. I am healing or realigning some aspect of life while guided by my inner voice.
4. Control…
a. …is something I place in the hands of others who know how best to look after my interests.
b. …is something you have to sometimes give to others even if you don’t want to. Sometimes it is the price you have to pay.
c. …is something that it is important for me to maintain.
d. …is something I no longer want to be subject to.
e. …is far less important than trust.
5. Intimacy…
a. …is something that is given to you by those who love you.
b. …is kind of a disgusting word. What does that really mean anyway – come on?
c. …sounds really sexual.
d. …is something I long for and am trying to learn how to find.
e. …is a challenge for most people – to truly share without losing yourself – that is the goal to which I aspire.
f. …is a challenge for most people – to truly share without losing yourself – I recognize how lucky I am to have developed this ability.
6. I think the information on this site...
a. … is unsettling. I don’t really know why, but I don’t like some of the things that it has to say.
b. … isn’t very good. I can see a lot of holes in its logic.
c. … is inspiring and uplifting. I really like it.
d. …will help a lot of people.
e. …is fascinating. I’d like to be in third stage but don’t know how it would be possible.
f. …is OK. I guess I could take it or leave it.
7. Visualizing infinity
a. Everyone knows that the human mind cannot truly conceive of infinity.
b. …is literally quite easy for me. I can see it clearly in my mind.
c. There isn’t any real point to doing that is there?
d. ...is not very easy for me to do but with practice I can make some headway.
8. When there is a big crisis my first instinct is to…
a. Look after those in my care or turn to the person who is supposed to look after me.
b. Find a safe place to hide.
c. Find a safe place to hide. I can feel myself shutting down.
d. Lose it.
e. Panic and try to look after others. What happens to me doesn’t matter.
f. Get ready to attack the threat.
g. Take my cues from the situation. See the bigger picture and do whatever is needed while staying in touch with myself.
h. Turn to the spiritual help that is always there for me.
9. My life
a. …is really quite ordinary and average. I can’t say I have any reason to complain.
b. …is really quite ordinary and average. Most people do have a pretty rough life really and I guess mine is no exception. But there is no reason to make a big deal about it. If you keep going you can get things to turn out OK. Keep your head down and your ears clean.
c. …is driving me crazy with the amount of crisis I am experiencing right now. When will it all be over? It seems like it is just one thing after another.
d. …is an exciting adventure. Might be cliché but it is true. I don’t mind being a happy cliché.
10. Happiness
a. …comes and goes, everyone knows that. No reason to be unhappy with your lot in life though.
b. Is anyone really happy?
c. …seems to always be an illusive dream for me.
d. …is something I am working hard to one day achieve. I’ll never give up on trying to get what I want out of life.
e. …is something I am working hard to one day achieve. I keep working on myself and my emotions. I am determined to solve life’s spiritual riddle.
f. …is my natural state of being. I don’t really think about it.
g. …is my natural state of being. Whatever may be happening on the surface of life I have a deep core of basic contentment. I feel I’ve solved many of the riddles of life.
11. When things get rough…
a. …I often feel like I just can’t take it anymore. Sometimes I want to completely throw in the towel and give up on life and myself. My life right now seems so difficult and then it gets even worse!?! It feels so hopeless sometimes.
b. …I know I can make it through. Beneath it all I have a deep sense of satisfaction in life. Even when things look rough I know there is a reason for everything that happens and I trust in the outcome of my life’s experience. All of life – positive or negative – is a grand adventure that I find fascinating to watch and feel honored to experience.
c. …I just take a break from it all. I read a book, go to a bar, talk to my friends. I have my ways of escaping. I just try to forget all about it. There’s really nothing else you can do except wait for the storm to be over. Then life gets back to normal.
d. …I’m strong enough to handle most of the difficulties in life. Things never really get that rough. I do whatever needs to be done and then relax and leave the rest to work itself out. Somehow life always tends to work out in my favor – more often sooner than later.
12. My parents:
a. Have always been happily married.
b. Had their relationships struggles but are now happily married (to one another or to other people).
c. Aren’t very happy but they stay together.
d. I did not have two parents.
e. Have split up. They are still not very happy people.
f. Have split up. One is happy, one is not.
g. Have split up. Single or married, they are both happy people.
13. The family I grew up in:
a. Was pretty normal and stable. I guess I should be thankful.
b. Was pretty normal and stable. I wonder what happened to me?
c. Was a mess.
d. Was a mess but we managed anyway.
e. Was a mess and I am now doing all I can to heal myself as a result.
f. Was a mess, but I’ve come a long way since then and can look back on all of my experiences with gratitude. I love my family but know when to keep my distance if necessary.
g. Had its problems, but in the long run things have worked out well.
h. Was absolutely amazing. I am so thankful to have been born into that family and realize how lucky I was to grow up in such a special environment.
14. My father…
a. …took good care of the family. He was/is kind of there in the background holding things together. Even if we are not close, his support is appreciated.
b. …took good care of the family. He was/is kind of there in the background holding things together - very much in control. He tends to be cold or distant and has a bit of a temper.
c. …is/was a distant tyrant.
d. …took me away from my mother.
e. …abandoned me.
f. …was pushed out of my life by my mother
g. …really tried to be a good father and eventually got it right.
h. …was/is my savior in life.
i. …was/is an incredible person. He has contributed in a spontaneous and profound manner to my life, inspiring me to be true to myself.
j. …was/is my mother’s soul mate.
15. My mother…
a. …is/was the Earth Mother – very natural, relaxed and caring.
b. …was overprotective.
c. …is/was cold and rejecting. I’ve probably never gotten over it, but at least it’s in the past.
d. …was a wonderful person whom I lost too early in my life.
e. …was my protector. She made sure I was well cared for.
f. …was difficult but I know I chose that experience and I’ve learned a lot from it.
g. …was largely absent or never there for me.
h. …is/was abusive and controlling.
i. …had a rough time in life but learned to overcome her difficulties and triumph. She set a great example for me, ensuring that my life would be better than her own.
j. …is/was really wise and trusting of her inner self. She will always be a great inspiration to me.
k. …encouraged my independence while providing me with unconditional support.
